just to recap
Temp drop today, 2nd lowest temp yet (this cycle) so I reckon this month is a lost cause. Knowing this early definitely doesn’t make it any easier though.
To be honest, I’m hating this temping. I find it a big hassle to wake myself up enough to take my temperature, then stumble in the dark to the bathroom so I can see the reading without waking DH up. And all I’m learning from this is that my cycle is fucked – was happier in my ignorance!
Was advised by a well-meaning friend recently that maybe I need to change my diet. It’s up there with “just relax and it will happen” or “you need to wait until your body is ready”. Someone else told me that people who adopt always seem to get pregnant afterwards, as they’ve stopped obsessing at that stage. So my next plan is to adopt a child, any child, to improve my chances of having my own. I will also change my diet to include plenty of vodka and valium, so that I will be relaxed enough to conceive. Hopefully my body will be ready by then.
Best of luck. It’s hard to hear advice when your feelings are so raw. Especially when the advice is stupid. But people don’t know what to say.
The adoption thing is true for some. It happened to my neighbor. She has 2 boys, one bio and one adopted, 3 months apart in age. She found out she was pregnant shortly after going through the adoption process, and thought ‘what the heck’. Funny thing, too.. the son who was adopted looks more like his mom than the bio. son. Weird!
But I wouldn’t adopt with the hope of having “your own”. We struggled with infertility for years and finally chose adoption. What a relief to get off the infertility merry-go-round!! I felt that we moved away from the goal of becoming pregnant and moved toward the goal of becoming parents. Best thing we ever did, and I wish we hadn’t waited so long. Oh, and these 2 kids couldn’t be more my own if they had come out of my body. They are completely, thoroughly, absolutely mine.
I hear the same advice almost daily from all the PREGNANT people I work with. Sometimes I wish they would choke. Oh well. I feel your pain with the temp thing too. I haven’t had a temperature spike in a year and 3 months. You should find a digital thermometer that has a memory. I wake up and take my temp then turn it off…later when I am awake, I record it.
I am sending good thoughts out to you!